My grandma has always been my favorite person she and I had a wonderful relationship and although she never showed it when I was little since I have grown up she admitted to me that I was also her favorite.
I'm sad now that she is losing her grip on reality. It is really hard to watch her confusion and so I have been able to find lots of excuses not to spend as much time with her as I should. I admit I have been lax and that it is inexcusable.
It has come to light however, that she is worse off than my mother and I thought. That she has not been taking care of herself properly and that she should not be living alone. In a previous post dated Nov 2 "That is Just Wrong" I talk about the family problems that have cropped up around her inability to care for herself. Well slowly and without any consistency, my mother and her sister have been looking for a better situation for my grandma. The steps have been continuing in there underhanded ways and a whole lot of nothing has been done.
On the 12th of Dec Grandma called my mom in tears, "they took me to the office and tried to get me to sign papers," when my mom asked what kind of papers of course grandma had no idea. " I just kept telling them that Sandi (my mom) has power of attorney and I don't want to sign anything else." The they that grandma was referring to were the steps.
My mom was dithering about what to do, so I said, "she can't stay there" and I offered to let her stay with me until my mom and her sister came up with an alternate plan.
Grandma came to stay with us on the 14th. It was hard having her here because honestly she needs more help than I am able to provide. Having her here was better than having her living alone though. On the first day she was here I heard her get up and in the half hour after she got up and before she came out of her room, she took her meds twice. I then had to take them away from her, on a pretense of child safety, and give them to her at the appropriate times.
She was and is very confused and likely to ask the same question 900 times in a 10 minute period. She also tells the same story over and over and over and over....... Those were not the hardest parts for me though. I am an introvert and I absolutely must, for my sanity, have alone time every day. Grandma absolutely had to be with me at all times all day long until she went to bed at night. So between that and Little T's teething I had someone with me 24/7. I was starting to go crazy.
She also, of course, had very different ideas on child rearing. We are a family very tolerant of a child's needs to have minimal clothing on at all times. Grandma insisted that the children needed to be fully clothed. At one point she held N down and tried to force her to get dressed. After that N was afraid of grandma. So I had to intervene and keep N and grandma apart without making it seem as though I was keeping them apart.
So on Christmas Eve my sister arrived and agreed to stay with grandma and my children so that Tony and I were finally able to go Christmas shopping for our children. While we were out my aunt (the step daughter in law) called me and yelled at me for "kidnapping" grandma and trying to "take her away from us" She finished with, "are you going to let us see her for Christmas?"
Let me just say here that I never took sides in the fight over grandma and that I think that the whole thing is entirely juvenile and ridiculous. I expressed this to the aunt and said of course they could have her for a time on Christmas as she was planning on that.
The aunt then said that my taking grandma to keep her safe was silly since it has been over a year since grandma has needed more help and why should I suddenly take it on myself to move her in with me without consulting anyone. I told her that my mom and her sister were aware of my plans and that grandma called her to tell her she was coming to my house for an indefinite amount of time.
It was a terrible conversation and it nearly left me in tears.
So Christmas Eve we had at my house with my mom and at the end of the night my mom brought up to grandma her options for places to live. Grandma just kept insisting that she only wanted to go back to her house. (which is absolutely not an option as it was sold years ago). She got so upset that only Tony could talk to her and my mom ended up going home with nothing decided. My mom had talked to an assisted living facility and had someone coming to evaluate grandma on the 26th which she didn't tell grandma about due to her upset.
Christmas day Grandma went to spend the day with her step children and I don't know what happened during the day, but when she came home she was so upset she fought off tears for the rest of the night until she went to bed.
On the 26th a lady from the home came to talk to grandma and she does indeed need more help as grandma was unaware that the day before was Christmas among other things. I then went to take a nap with Little T and while I was sleeping grandma recited to Tony all of the things that the steps had been trying to convince her of for months. She also insisted that she wanted to go home.
I called my mom and she arranged to take some time off work and came and got grandma to stay with her. Grandma is moving in to the assisted living place on Monday and we moved her things yesterday.
Hopefully she will be safe and happy there.
Sunday, December 30, 2007
Thursday, November 15, 2007
Weight Loss Update
176.2 down .6 so not a huge loss but a loss. I really need to get with it or I will never meet my goal of being back at pre-preg weight by Little T's first birthday.
Thursday, November 08, 2007
Weight loss update
A gain today. Just a little one though. I gained .8 so am now 176.8. I really need to excersize more.
Friday, November 02, 2007
That is just wrong
I am so angry right now.
My Grandma is being taken advantage of, and it pisses me right off.
My Grandma is in the grips of dementia, she forgets to bathe, brush her teeth, and to change her depends. She forgets that she has something cooking on the stove. She even forgets which decade it is.
For the last 10 or 12 years she has been living in a senior apartment building and though she misses her home she has gotten used to living there. Now they are trying to force her to move to a Nursing Home. She doesn't want to and is adamantly refusing to go. She is absolutely digging in her heels and nothing is moving her. The reason she is so adamant is that when she was moved from her home it was against her will and she is not going to let that happen to her again.
A little background. When my grandma married her second husband she acquired two step children whom she never adopted. She also already had three children of her own whom her new husband never adopted. My aunt, grandma's second child, died 35ish years ago. So now my grandma has two children and two step children. Her husband (my grandpa of the heart but in reality step grandpa) has been dead for 20 years. My mother is my grandma's third child.
15 years ago my mom was living with grandma as she had just gotten divorced. Grandma had a stroke and my mom took care of her when she got home from the hospital ie; buying groceries, washing her laundry, paying the bills, fixing meals, etc. At that time grandma gave my mom financial and medical Power of Attorney. Shortly after ward grandma's step daughter in law (sdil) and step daughter (sd) decided that my mom was sponging off of grandma and that grandma needed to move to the senior apts. Sdil got in my mother's face and told her that she had 2 weeks to be out of grandma's house. And then sdil and dil proceeded to go through grandma's things and throw things away and give them to their kids.
Now they want to do it again. For the last little bit things have been happening at grandma's apt and the grandma's friends have been calling sdil and ss to tell them about the incidents. Then sdil calls sd and tells her. But no one calls either of the dds. After the dds said no to the nursing home sdil and sd finally tell the dds about the incidents. So now my mom (dd3) and her sister (dd1) are in agreement that maybe it is time for grandma to be somewhere that would be safer for grandma. But the dds are trying to convince grandma that it is a good idea.
So last week sdil calls dd3 and asks that she and her husband get POA "not necessarily instead of but in addition to you, because we live closer and do more things for her." Dd3 says no, because grandma has said over and over "I don't want sdil to know my financial information."
So yesterday, without telling anyone sdil and her dh (ss) took grandma to the bank and convinced her that ss should be on grandma's bank account. Wait, it gets better, and then didn't tell anyone that they had done this. The only reason we know is that dd3 went to the bank and was asking questions in her position as financial POA and was told that they couldn't divulge that information to anyone but ss because he was on the account.
So why did they decide now to get ss on grandma's account? Because dd3 said that she wouldn't let them share POA? Maybe?
I do believe that they have declared war, and the only casualty is going to be grandma.
Why do people have to be such jerks?
My Grandma is being taken advantage of, and it pisses me right off.
My Grandma is in the grips of dementia, she forgets to bathe, brush her teeth, and to change her depends. She forgets that she has something cooking on the stove. She even forgets which decade it is.
For the last 10 or 12 years she has been living in a senior apartment building and though she misses her home she has gotten used to living there. Now they are trying to force her to move to a Nursing Home. She doesn't want to and is adamantly refusing to go. She is absolutely digging in her heels and nothing is moving her. The reason she is so adamant is that when she was moved from her home it was against her will and she is not going to let that happen to her again.
A little background. When my grandma married her second husband she acquired two step children whom she never adopted. She also already had three children of her own whom her new husband never adopted. My aunt, grandma's second child, died 35ish years ago. So now my grandma has two children and two step children. Her husband (my grandpa of the heart but in reality step grandpa) has been dead for 20 years. My mother is my grandma's third child.
15 years ago my mom was living with grandma as she had just gotten divorced. Grandma had a stroke and my mom took care of her when she got home from the hospital ie; buying groceries, washing her laundry, paying the bills, fixing meals, etc. At that time grandma gave my mom financial and medical Power of Attorney. Shortly after ward grandma's step daughter in law (sdil) and step daughter (sd) decided that my mom was sponging off of grandma and that grandma needed to move to the senior apts. Sdil got in my mother's face and told her that she had 2 weeks to be out of grandma's house. And then sdil and dil proceeded to go through grandma's things and throw things away and give them to their kids.
Now they want to do it again. For the last little bit things have been happening at grandma's apt and the grandma's friends have been calling sdil and ss to tell them about the incidents. Then sdil calls sd and tells her. But no one calls either of the dds. After the dds said no to the nursing home sdil and sd finally tell the dds about the incidents. So now my mom (dd3) and her sister (dd1) are in agreement that maybe it is time for grandma to be somewhere that would be safer for grandma. But the dds are trying to convince grandma that it is a good idea.
So last week sdil calls dd3 and asks that she and her husband get POA "not necessarily instead of but in addition to you, because we live closer and do more things for her." Dd3 says no, because grandma has said over and over "I don't want sdil to know my financial information."
So yesterday, without telling anyone sdil and her dh (ss) took grandma to the bank and convinced her that ss should be on grandma's bank account. Wait, it gets better, and then didn't tell anyone that they had done this. The only reason we know is that dd3 went to the bank and was asking questions in her position as financial POA and was told that they couldn't divulge that information to anyone but ss because he was on the account.
So why did they decide now to get ss on grandma's account? Because dd3 said that she wouldn't let them share POA? Maybe?
I do believe that they have declared war, and the only casualty is going to be grandma.
Why do people have to be such jerks?
Thursday, November 01, 2007
Weight loss update
I need to change my weigh in day. I never seem to have time before we need to leave on Wed, that or get up earlier. lol But I think I'll just change the day to Thursday. So today on Weight Loss Thursday I am 176 down 2.6! YAY!
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
Weight Loss Wed
Yay! I lost again. 178.6 down 1.8.
I've been exercisingby carrying Bubby up and down the stairs on my back.
I've been exercisingby carrying Bubby up and down the stairs on my back.
Thursday, October 18, 2007
Update on this is going to be fun
So last Friday we went to the Academy for the family day and it went really well. Firstly because we went out Thurs and stayed in a hotel so that the children wouldn't be stir crazy from 4 hours in the van. And secondly because they did plan on having small children there.
In the afternoon when most of the classes that I had to attend took place, several of the teachers took the children and they played games, went to a museum that is on the base, and watched movies. So I only had Tavis for most of the afternoon and he just nursed and played quietly. They brought Nahli to me when she got cranky and then Nahli laid herself down on the floor and went to sleep. Everyone was so helpful and understanding about the littles.
It was cute, when we got to watch Tony in his Defensive Tactics class all the children (not just mine) were yelling "hi, daddy, look there's my daddy." and the teacher was laughing at how cute they all were. And then when they were practicing the tactics K and N thought it was hilarious and were laughing so hard that all the adults were chuckling too.
We also had a good NIP experience there. I was nursing little T early in the morning and one of the teachers asked me if I needed a towel or anything and I just said, "no thanks, I'm fine." and he said ok like it was no big deal. Of course at the Police Academy you would expect them to know the laws about such a thing, and here in Iowa our right to nurse in public is protected.
In the afternoon when most of the classes that I had to attend took place, several of the teachers took the children and they played games, went to a museum that is on the base, and watched movies. So I only had Tavis for most of the afternoon and he just nursed and played quietly. They brought Nahli to me when she got cranky and then Nahli laid herself down on the floor and went to sleep. Everyone was so helpful and understanding about the littles.
It was cute, when we got to watch Tony in his Defensive Tactics class all the children (not just mine) were yelling "hi, daddy, look there's my daddy." and the teacher was laughing at how cute they all were. And then when they were practicing the tactics K and N thought it was hilarious and were laughing so hard that all the adults were chuckling too.
We also had a good NIP experience there. I was nursing little T early in the morning and one of the teachers asked me if I needed a towel or anything and I just said, "no thanks, I'm fine." and he said ok like it was no big deal. Of course at the Police Academy you would expect them to know the laws about such a thing, and here in Iowa our right to nurse in public is protected.
Weight Loss Wed
I'm posting this a day late because I was too busy yesterday to even look at the computer. I did however, have time to weigh both last week and this.
Last Wed the 10th I weighed 184.4ish. Yuck, a huge gain.
But yesterday I was back down to 180.4 so a 4 pound loss. WoooHooo!!!
Last Wed the 10th I weighed 184.4ish. Yuck, a huge gain.
But yesterday I was back down to 180.4 so a 4 pound loss. WoooHooo!!!
Friday, October 05, 2007
This is going to be fun
Next Friday there is going to be a family day thing at the Police Academy and they want all of the families to attend.
Sounds good, right?
Sure we'll come. I'll drive 2.5-3 hours to the Academy to arrive at 9:30 with all 5 kids, by myself, it'll be great.
But wait, I just found out more, it starts at 9:30 and we will be in a classroom listening to a lecture for a while,
A LECTURE????? Umm, this is a family thing, right? They know that your kids are coming?
So they expect small children to sit quietly and listen to a lecture?
And then after a lecture we get to observe a class with Tony in it doing defensive tactics. Observe A Class.
With a 2 year old who hasn't seen her daddy in 5 days. Yeah, you bet.
So I had a bright idea. I'll get one of these http://tinyurl.com/2zcub7
Yeah that'll go over well. Nahli has no problem making herself heard. I can see it now. I put that thing on her and her voice raises to levels that only dogs can hear. She's screaming at the top of her lungs, "Yet do a me! Yet do a me! YET DO A ME!!!" (let go of me)
Crap, I have 5 kids 8 and under and they expect us to sit through a lecture and then watch Tony from the sidelines. This thing is to last from 9:30 until 4. And Tony doesn't get to join us until lunch time. After a really long drive to get there. After I have to get them up earlier than they EVER get up. With NO nap.
Oh HELP.
So Tony asks his parents if they will come.
Nope, they don't want to.
ARRRRGGGGHHHH
please................. anyone................help..................
Sounds good, right?
Sure we'll come. I'll drive 2.5-3 hours to the Academy to arrive at 9:30 with all 5 kids, by myself, it'll be great.
But wait, I just found out more, it starts at 9:30 and we will be in a classroom listening to a lecture for a while,
A LECTURE????? Umm, this is a family thing, right? They know that your kids are coming?
So they expect small children to sit quietly and listen to a lecture?
And then after a lecture we get to observe a class with Tony in it doing defensive tactics. Observe A Class.
With a 2 year old who hasn't seen her daddy in 5 days. Yeah, you bet.
So I had a bright idea. I'll get one of these http://tinyurl.com/2zcub7
Yeah that'll go over well. Nahli has no problem making herself heard. I can see it now. I put that thing on her and her voice raises to levels that only dogs can hear. She's screaming at the top of her lungs, "Yet do a me! Yet do a me! YET DO A ME!!!" (let go of me)
Crap, I have 5 kids 8 and under and they expect us to sit through a lecture and then watch Tony from the sidelines. This thing is to last from 9:30 until 4. And Tony doesn't get to join us until lunch time. After a really long drive to get there. After I have to get them up earlier than they EVER get up. With NO nap.
Oh HELP.
So Tony asks his parents if they will come.
Nope, they don't want to.
ARRRRGGGGHHHH
please................. anyone................help..................
Thursday, October 04, 2007
Weight Loss Wed a day late
I did weigh yesterday but had such a busy day didn't have a chance to blog about it.
I gained again, because I didn't take the time to exercise.
I am 179.8. So not a huge gain, but a gain all the same.
On the eliminating dairy front I am doing very well and even the children are on board, sort of. LOL When we go to the store they say, "Can we have this? Does it have milk in it?" And when I say it has milk they just groan and put it back. I may keep them off dairy for the rest of their lives just so I don't have to deal with the begging in the store. Do you think they'd believe that the video game they want has dairy in it? Yeah, I didn't think so....
I gained again, because I didn't take the time to exercise.
I am 179.8. So not a huge gain, but a gain all the same.
On the eliminating dairy front I am doing very well and even the children are on board, sort of. LOL When we go to the store they say, "Can we have this? Does it have milk in it?" And when I say it has milk they just groan and put it back. I may keep them off dairy for the rest of their lives just so I don't have to deal with the begging in the store. Do you think they'd believe that the video game they want has dairy in it? Yeah, I didn't think so....
Thursday, September 27, 2007
Dyson giveaway
http://www.5minutesformom.com/2334/dyson-pink/
Maybe you could be the lucky winner of the new pink dyson.
Maybe you could be the lucky winner of the new pink dyson.
Weight Loss Wed errr Thursday
I forgot to weigh yesterday before we started our whirlwind day. We left home at 9:30 and didn't get home until 7:00. It was a long time to be out with all 5 kidlets so when I got home I just had to rest. lol Especially since Nahli thought that it was a good idea to scream non stop for about 15 minutes after we got home, incidentally those 15 minutes were the time it took me to make supper. After she'd eaten she was a whole other child. Yep hunger can make you a bit grumpy. And the reason she'd been upset is that she'd asked for stuff to eat and I'd put her off with, "after supper you can have cookies/chips/popsicles/poptarts. (Yes I was hungry when I bought groceries last night so I bought a lot of junk for the kidlets lol naughty me). So lesson learned, don't let her get hungry to the point of meltdown, a snack in the van on the way home would have headed off the screaming.
So, anyway, I weighed this morning instead and my new weight is 179.2! WoooHooo! A loss! Down from 181.2 so a 2 pound loss. And again I learn that when I excersize (oh hush, Tony) I lose weight. This weekend I rode my bike while wearing children and went for a realllllllllllly long walk of about 3 or 4 miles also while wearing a child. LOL My weights are my children. And let me just tell you that riding a bike while wearing a 35 pound child is a completely different thing than just riding a bike.
So, anyway, I weighed this morning instead and my new weight is 179.2! WoooHooo! A loss! Down from 181.2 so a 2 pound loss. And again I learn that when I excersize (oh hush, Tony) I lose weight. This weekend I rode my bike while wearing children and went for a realllllllllllly long walk of about 3 or 4 miles also while wearing a child. LOL My weights are my children. And let me just tell you that riding a bike while wearing a 35 pound child is a completely different thing than just riding a bike.
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Weight Loss Wednesday
Not this week. I gained 2 so am back at 181.2. This week I got lazy and didn't exercise and wasn't very careful about how much I ate.
I've been watching Biggest Loser and last night at the weigh in I thought how hard it would be to be working your butt off and only lose 2 pounds. Yikes!
So for me, at least I know why I didn't lose and I will try harder this week. I have added incentive to lose now, because Tony told me last night that he has a family thing coming up at the Academy and I want to be much smaller before I get introduced to his new friends.
I've been watching Biggest Loser and last night at the weigh in I thought how hard it would be to be working your butt off and only lose 2 pounds. Yikes!
So for me, at least I know why I didn't lose and I will try harder this week. I have added incentive to lose now, because Tony told me last night that he has a family thing coming up at the Academy and I want to be much smaller before I get introduced to his new friends.
Sunday, September 16, 2007
Family sadness
I am very sad and a bit scared right now. I just got off the phone with my mom and she was telling me about my grandma. My grandma has dementia, and is getting worse by the day. Right now she lives alone in a Seniors apartment. It seems that she is going to need to move to a nursing home sooner rather than later.
She is either taking her meds twice or not at all, she is walking in to other people's apartments and she can't remember that my Aunt Yvonne is dead (and my Aunt Yvonne died 35-40 years ago.)
This last week she was not at home and she came out of the bedroom she was staying in in hysterics, "Where's Jolene, I can't find Jolene, I lost her, I'm a horrible mother..."
This is bad for two reasons. The first is that Jolene is my sister and her granddaughter not her daughter. She has for a while now confused my sister's name with her daughter's name. And the second reason is that her daughter (my Aunt Yvonne) has been dead for a long time.
I think that in her confusion she knows that she lost Yvonne to death, but all she remembers is that she lost her and so is in panic, desperately searching for her daughter. My heart hurts at the thought of this.
My Grandma has ever been so independent and now the thought of having her live in a nursing home and taking her independence away is so hard.
Part of the reason this is so hard for me is that my other Grandma was dead in under a year after being moved to a nursing home, because she just gave up on life. She loved where she was living, but her children (my dad's siblings) decided that they couldn't keep paying for her to live where she was and so moved her to a nursing home. She felt discarded and unwanted. I believe in my heart that she decided to die so she wouldn't be a burden anymore.
Oh God, I don't want to lose my Grandma.
She is either taking her meds twice or not at all, she is walking in to other people's apartments and she can't remember that my Aunt Yvonne is dead (and my Aunt Yvonne died 35-40 years ago.)
This last week she was not at home and she came out of the bedroom she was staying in in hysterics, "Where's Jolene, I can't find Jolene, I lost her, I'm a horrible mother..."
This is bad for two reasons. The first is that Jolene is my sister and her granddaughter not her daughter. She has for a while now confused my sister's name with her daughter's name. And the second reason is that her daughter (my Aunt Yvonne) has been dead for a long time.
I think that in her confusion she knows that she lost Yvonne to death, but all she remembers is that she lost her and so is in panic, desperately searching for her daughter. My heart hurts at the thought of this.
My Grandma has ever been so independent and now the thought of having her live in a nursing home and taking her independence away is so hard.
Part of the reason this is so hard for me is that my other Grandma was dead in under a year after being moved to a nursing home, because she just gave up on life. She loved where she was living, but her children (my dad's siblings) decided that they couldn't keep paying for her to live where she was and so moved her to a nursing home. She felt discarded and unwanted. I believe in my heart that she decided to die so she wouldn't be a burden anymore.
Oh God, I don't want to lose my Grandma.
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
Weight Loss Wednesday
I LOST!!!
Yay! I'm going down again. I am now 179.2 down 2.2 from last week.
This week I rode my bike a couple of times and went for 2 walks. Exercise is key.
I'm doing well on eliminating dairy and now that Tony is away I've completely eliminated dairy for all of us. I'm hoping to see improvement in all of us with out having to resort to a TED. However, I don't think that will be the case. Tavis is reacting to something, his last poo was Sat or Sun and he has the allergy ring. I think that eliminating things here and there is so hard for me, it would be easier, I think, to have a list of things that we can have, than the opposite.
Something to think about for this week.
Yay! I'm going down again. I am now 179.2 down 2.2 from last week.
This week I rode my bike a couple of times and went for 2 walks. Exercise is key.
I'm doing well on eliminating dairy and now that Tony is away I've completely eliminated dairy for all of us. I'm hoping to see improvement in all of us with out having to resort to a TED. However, I don't think that will be the case. Tavis is reacting to something, his last poo was Sat or Sun and he has the allergy ring. I think that eliminating things here and there is so hard for me, it would be easier, I think, to have a list of things that we can have, than the opposite.
Something to think about for this week.
Wednesday, September 05, 2007
Weight loss Wednesday
Or not. I gained this week, I'm now 181.4. Up 1.4 from last week.
I need to exercise more, when I exercise I lose. So there you have it.
I need to exercise more, when I exercise I lose. So there you have it.
Tuesday, September 04, 2007
Well he's gone
Tony's gone for 13 weeks, starting last night. That is a bit deceptive, he will be home weekends as much as we can afford the gas. But still....
Tristan is taking it really hard, which is to be expected since Tristan is the most sensitive of all my kidlets.
Tony is also taking it hard, he really misses all of us and tonight when he called he asked me if he's doing the right thing. I told him that of course he is.
It was so cute, I put Tony on speaker when he called and when Tavis heard Tony, he just lit up. It was just beautiful. Tavis doesn't talk much but he was talking to his daddy. Then he grabbed the phone and started kissing it, he wasn't chewing on it at all, just the sweet, open mouthed, baby kiss. Tony told him,"don't start walking yet, just wait until the day after I come back." I said, "what about on a Sat? would that be OK?" Tony then said, "All right, but wait for a Sat. OK?" And Tavis said, "OK" I'm not kidding, it was clear as anything. And Tony heard it too.
Tristan is taking it really hard, which is to be expected since Tristan is the most sensitive of all my kidlets.
Tony is also taking it hard, he really misses all of us and tonight when he called he asked me if he's doing the right thing. I told him that of course he is.
It was so cute, I put Tony on speaker when he called and when Tavis heard Tony, he just lit up. It was just beautiful. Tavis doesn't talk much but he was talking to his daddy. Then he grabbed the phone and started kissing it, he wasn't chewing on it at all, just the sweet, open mouthed, baby kiss. Tony told him,"don't start walking yet, just wait until the day after I come back." I said, "what about on a Sat? would that be OK?" Tony then said, "All right, but wait for a Sat. OK?" And Tavis said, "OK" I'm not kidding, it was clear as anything. And Tony heard it too.
Sunday, September 02, 2007
Kids and Horses
My kids have become quite good Horsepeople. LOL They are riding very well. On Friday we went to my dad's to ride and the kids were the only ones who rode. Well I did ride for about 5 minutes, but the stirrup was rubbing on my ankle and I was in no mood to be injured so I got off.
The only problem we had was that Kaia kept forgetting to hold on to the reins which was actually ok because she was riding Kasey.
They all had their horses trotting and Dria even stayed on during a brief "wow this is so much fun" buck from Sultan.
The only problem we had was that Kaia kept forgetting to hold on to the reins which was actually ok because she was riding Kasey.
They all had their horses trotting and Dria even stayed on during a brief "wow this is so much fun" buck from Sultan.
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
WEIGHT LOSS!!!!!
YAY! I lost 3 pounds this week. That is the one pound I gained last week and 2 more. I am now 180 and that is down from 192+ so a 12+ pound loss over all for about 6 weeks. This loss is a 2 pound a week average, which is the goal I set for myself.
I didn't exercise much, but did very well on portion control. I had no slips with dairy except, I had a meatloaf sandwich that I bought from the convenience store and I just wondered if there was any dairy in that.
I'll have to check on that, but otherwise I'm doing great!!!
I didn't exercise much, but did very well on portion control. I had no slips with dairy except, I had a meatloaf sandwich that I bought from the convenience store and I just wondered if there was any dairy in that.
I'll have to check on that, but otherwise I'm doing great!!!
Wednesday, August 22, 2007
Weight loss again
183 up 1.4 pounds, darn. This week we went out to eat at this place that has huge portions and I pigged out. I also wasn't very careful about whether or not there was dairy in the things I ate.
Well now I'll start a new week and unfortunately the clock resets on the eliminating dairy. I'll do better this week.
Well now I'll start a new week and unfortunately the clock resets on the eliminating dairy. I'll do better this week.
Wednesday, August 15, 2007
Weight Loss
YAY!!!! I'm down another 2.2 lbs for a grand total of................................11 POUNDS!!!!!
I am now 181.6!!! YAY!!!
I am now 181.6!!! YAY!!!
Tuesday, August 14, 2007
It's weird
Completely strange. Unless Mom talked to him?
Jed is treating me like a person instead of being a complete butt. Of course his girlfriend is visiting so he may be putting on a show for her.
Who knows.
Anyway it's weird.
Also something I thought was funny.
Last Monday when we were at dad's cleaning Jed was there and the kidlets followed him around, like they always do, for a bit. Then they went off and did their own thing for a bit. While they were busy Jed left. He just left he didn't say goodbye or anything.
So a few minutes later Dria came looking for him. I told her that he'd gone and she was crushed. I mean completely crushed. She has a hard time when someone leaves without saying goodbye. She's always been like that and Jed knows it, or he should, she is his niece after all and he's been told before.
Then on Friday we were at dad's again and Jed showed up with his girlfriend. After a bit Jed says to me very conspiratorially, "look Dria's jealous again." (once a couple of years ago Jed had a girlfriend that Dria didn't particularly like and so avoided her and Jed when they were around and my mom decided that Dria was jealous and that was why Dria was avoiding Jed). I said, "Nope, she's mad at you for leaving the other day with out telling her goodbye."
Jed was stunned. Completely gobsmacked. It was like he was thinking, "Dria's mad???? I wasn't aware she had feelings." or something equally dumb.
But, he did apologize. Again I'm not sure why. Was it because his girlfriend was there? Because he really didn't want Dria to be mad at him? or what??
Of course Dria forgave him, she absolutely adores Jed and always has. Even she was just a little bit of a thing and going through stranger anxiety and only wanting me and Tony she would go right to Jed (unless he was wearing a hat, then all bets were off. LOL) I didn't though. You don't hurt my babies and get off that easily. Butthead.
Anyway I thought that his expression was priceless. Of course I didn't have the camera at the time. Darn the luck.
Jed is treating me like a person instead of being a complete butt. Of course his girlfriend is visiting so he may be putting on a show for her.
Who knows.
Anyway it's weird.
Also something I thought was funny.
Last Monday when we were at dad's cleaning Jed was there and the kidlets followed him around, like they always do, for a bit. Then they went off and did their own thing for a bit. While they were busy Jed left. He just left he didn't say goodbye or anything.
So a few minutes later Dria came looking for him. I told her that he'd gone and she was crushed. I mean completely crushed. She has a hard time when someone leaves without saying goodbye. She's always been like that and Jed knows it, or he should, she is his niece after all and he's been told before.
Then on Friday we were at dad's again and Jed showed up with his girlfriend. After a bit Jed says to me very conspiratorially, "look Dria's jealous again." (once a couple of years ago Jed had a girlfriend that Dria didn't particularly like and so avoided her and Jed when they were around and my mom decided that Dria was jealous and that was why Dria was avoiding Jed). I said, "Nope, she's mad at you for leaving the other day with out telling her goodbye."
Jed was stunned. Completely gobsmacked. It was like he was thinking, "Dria's mad???? I wasn't aware she had feelings." or something equally dumb.
But, he did apologize. Again I'm not sure why. Was it because his girlfriend was there? Because he really didn't want Dria to be mad at him? or what??
Of course Dria forgave him, she absolutely adores Jed and always has. Even she was just a little bit of a thing and going through stranger anxiety and only wanting me and Tony she would go right to Jed (unless he was wearing a hat, then all bets were off. LOL) I didn't though. You don't hurt my babies and get off that easily. Butthead.
Anyway I thought that his expression was priceless. Of course I didn't have the camera at the time. Darn the luck.
Monday, August 13, 2007
Bubby is Bald
For the last couple of years, everytime I cut Tony's hair, Bubby has been asking me to shave his head. I've told him no over and over because, frankly, I didn't want him to be bald.
half way done
bald boy
"I LOVE IT!!"
So yesterday Bubby asked me again to shave his head and I thought about it and since it is his hair and it will grow back I agreed.
So here are a few pics of the process.Before
half way done
bald boy
"I LOVE IT!!"
Thursday, August 09, 2007
weight loss again
None. Darn. I weigh the same this week as I did last week. At least I know why, I haven't been doing any excersizing because it's been too stinking hot and humid.
I also screwed up the dairy elimination and had a bit of cheese and a vitamin that has milk in it.
Oh well, it's a new week and I can start again.
I also screwed up the dairy elimination and had a bit of cheese and a vitamin that has milk in it.
Oh well, it's a new week and I can start again.
Sunday, August 05, 2007
Friday, August 03, 2007
OMG!!!!
Tons of changes coming up and that have already happened for us. I am really having a hard time processing everything. I am stressed out to the max. LOL
First off, Chad called Tony and told him that he can get in to the Sept. class at the Police Academy. We were planning on him going in Jan. EEEEEK!!!
This means that Tony will be gone for 13 weeks and we will have no income while he's gone. Also for the first 3 weeks he will not be allowed to come home at all. It will be hard to be without him for so long, not just for me, but for the kidlets.
Also today we bought a van. EEEEEEK!
Scary, because we won't have an income coming up in Sept. But we really needed a new van. Our old van was really too small for us all and it has started to give us problems. Including having the air go out for the second time this summer. Tony said that repairs, if he did them himself, would cost in excess of a couple thousand dollars.
So we are the proud new owners of a 2001 Dodge Conversion Van. It is soooooo much bigger than our old mini van that the mini van would fit inside the new van.
Another stressful thing is that we got in the mail a couple of weeks ago a bill from the IRS saying that we owe around $4000. YUCK!
The biggest stresser recently has to be that we had a pregnancy scare a couple of weeks ago due to my chart showing an O. Then it decided that I didn't O. I was freaking out because I honestly didn't think that I was O-ing (and still don't) because I know my body and I usually know when I am O-ing.
It will all work out in the end for the best. I just have to believe that or I will go crazy.
First off, Chad called Tony and told him that he can get in to the Sept. class at the Police Academy. We were planning on him going in Jan. EEEEEK!!!
This means that Tony will be gone for 13 weeks and we will have no income while he's gone. Also for the first 3 weeks he will not be allowed to come home at all. It will be hard to be without him for so long, not just for me, but for the kidlets.
Also today we bought a van. EEEEEEK!
Scary, because we won't have an income coming up in Sept. But we really needed a new van. Our old van was really too small for us all and it has started to give us problems. Including having the air go out for the second time this summer. Tony said that repairs, if he did them himself, would cost in excess of a couple thousand dollars.
So we are the proud new owners of a 2001 Dodge Conversion Van. It is soooooo much bigger than our old mini van that the mini van would fit inside the new van.
Another stressful thing is that we got in the mail a couple of weeks ago a bill from the IRS saying that we owe around $4000. YUCK!
The biggest stresser recently has to be that we had a pregnancy scare a couple of weeks ago due to my chart showing an O. Then it decided that I didn't O. I was freaking out because I honestly didn't think that I was O-ing (and still don't) because I know my body and I usually know when I am O-ing.
It will all work out in the end for the best. I just have to believe that or I will go crazy.
Wednesday, August 01, 2007
Yay! Keep going down
Today I am at 183.8 down another 1.6 lbs, for a combined total of 8.4 lbs lost. I've just kept up on the portion control and paying attention to what I eat. For excersize more playing in the pool with the kidlets.
I have been off dairy completely with no oooopsses (that I know of) for over a week.
YAY!
I have been off dairy completely with no oooopsses (that I know of) for over a week.
YAY!
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
Another weight loss update
This week went pretty well. I still need to work on portion control, but I did excersize (read played in the pool) several times this week.
I am now down to 185.4 so 1.2 pounds lost. Yay! Slow and steady is what I am going for.
On the eliminating dairy, I've done really well. Saturday Tony and I went to see Harry Potter at the theater and I had popcorn. I thought about it for a while and went with the butter on the popcorn, because I figure there is not any dairy in movie theater popcorn. It has got to be some combination of chemicals made to taste like butter. LOL Maybe I am deluding myself but it doesn't look anything like butter.
I am now down to 185.4 so 1.2 pounds lost. Yay! Slow and steady is what I am going for.
On the eliminating dairy, I've done really well. Saturday Tony and I went to see Harry Potter at the theater and I had popcorn. I thought about it for a while and went with the butter on the popcorn, because I figure there is not any dairy in movie theater popcorn. It has got to be some combination of chemicals made to taste like butter. LOL Maybe I am deluding myself but it doesn't look anything like butter.
Thursday, July 19, 2007
Weight loss update
I've lost almost a pound. I am now 186.6. I haven't been as careful about portion sizes this week because of my dad's party and we went to my mom's on Friday.
I have had no dairy except for the dairy in the bread crumbs I used to make meatloaf, I forgot to check the label before I used them. Why do they have to put cheese in bread crumbs????
All in all I'd say it was a good week.
I have had no dairy except for the dairy in the bread crumbs I used to make meatloaf, I forgot to check the label before I used them. Why do they have to put cheese in bread crumbs????
All in all I'd say it was a good week.
Sunday, July 15, 2007
I'm DONE, and sad
I've decided that I am done. I will no longer take any more abuse from my brother, Jed.
It is hard, so hard that I am crying typing about it. I love him and for years we were so close. In high school we had many friends in common and we would talk for hours.
Now he treats me like I am an idiot and his slave. When I see him there is never a "hi, how are you doing." He seldom even acknowledges my existence unless he wants me to do something for him or if he wants to yell at me.
When I called him to tell him about Tavis' birth I ended up swearing at him and hanging up because he was yelling at me telling me, "you can't name him Tavis and are you trying to populate the whole city," in really rude tones. After I hung up I cried. The day my baby was born he made me cry with his rudeness.
One time at my mom's house Jed told Tristan that he was going to spank him and I said, "no, your not." Then Jed yelled at me and basically told me that my kids are going to be criminals and that I am a horrible mother.
He has no respect for me and no time for me. He lives most of the year in Arizona hours and hours away and if he calls my house it is to talk to Tony. When he is here I only see him or hear from him if we happen to be in the same place at the same time. Then he only talks to me if I do something he doesn't like or if he is ordering me around. And then he can't be bothered to even say, "Thanks."
But this all came to a head yesterday. My dad was having his annual hog roast and horse riding party. It is a huge party and every year my sister and I go to town to get the supplies before the party. We generally leave the kids with Tony at my dad's house so that we don't have to haul them in and out of the stores and because they love being at Grandpa's. We were taking Tavis with us because he won't take a bottle and I didn't want him to have to cry for me when I was gone.
As we were leaving Jed yells across the yard at us "be back in an hour, don't go shopping."
An hour??? It takes 10 -15 minutes to get to town and we bought nearly $200 worth of stuff, there was no shopping involved. In fact we have only gone shopping on the day of the party once and that year we left several hours earlier than usual just for that purpose. But Jed thinks that the world revolves around him and he wants Tony to help him with the horses on the day of the party and me leaving the kids with Tony makes Tony unavailable to jump when Jed says jump.
But, without rushing we were done shopping about an hour after we left, except Walmart didn't have the beer Jed told us to get for him (and it is a well known fact that Jed will throw a temper tantrum if you don't get him exactly what he "asks" for). So we went to the liquor store and they were out of the cases but had some 12 packs. Then we went to another liquor store and they had 1 case but not the 2 cases he told us to get. So we had to go back to the first liquor store to get the 2-12 packs. All in all spending another 45 minutes driving around for his beer, in my car, using my gas.
This is a theme with our shopping trips for the party. Every year we spend most of our town time driving to all the different stores trying to get exactly the beer Jed wants.
Then we get back with my van Full. And no one can help us unload and Jed is taking Tony right now to get the horses. I said, "hey Jed here's your beer...." And he said, "put it in this cooler and put ice on it!" and drove off.
Then later the kids were riding the horses around the riding pen and he was yelling at them for not doing things right yadda yadda yadda.
By the way Dria is turning into an EXCELLENT rider. She was having the least trouble of any one riding. All of the horses minded her and she was even having the horses trotting and was doing great. I'm so proud of her.
So some of Jed's friends want to ride. The girl had never been on a horse before and was nervous so they were going to ride double and I was helping them because I had just gotten off the horse they were going to ride. But another of Jed's friends runs over and tells them not to ride that horse because that horse doesn't like men. Whatever, so I called Dria over and switched her over so they could have the horse she was riding because she had the gentlest horse.
Then I left and had no more to do with the horses.
About half an hour later Jed yells at me that he had everyone on the horses that he wanted them to be on and that I was NOT to be switching them around because now no one could get the horses to go (we are talking about a bunch of people who had never ridden and Dria and she was having no troubles). I said, "I only switched Dria and she is doing fine, and I only switched her so that your friends could ride." He then said, "the kids are riding before we eat and the adults can ride after." I rolled my eyes and walked away.
OK.
(Incidentally, it was one of his friends switching everyone around so they could ride the different horses.)
I then went about my business not talking to Jed at all and hours later was helping the same girl get back on a horse and Jed yells at me that he knows a bit about horses and that I was doing it wrong (hello, I was raised with horses too you know, AND I probably know this horse better than you because you are in Arizona most of the year and I am here). I said, "And I don't?"
He then said something to the effect that I don't know anything and I am stupid. I can't remember what exactly. It really hurt. A Lot.
Damn, I'm crying again. It wasn't just what he said, his condescending tone was much worse.
So to summarize my interactions with him yesterday.
When we arrived I said,"hi, Jed" he grunted
When we were making our list I asked him if he needed any thing in town and he said ,"Get me 2 cases of beer!" no please or thank you
I called him from town and he told me that 4-12 packs of beer is not going to work, "Go to the other store!"
When we got back from town he told me to put his beer in THAT cooler with some ice.
Then he yelled at me for switching people around on horses.
Then he yelled at me for not doing it right.
Then I packed up my kids and things and left.
This is the second time I've seen him since he came home after being gone for 9 months.
The other time I saw him he asked (yes actually asked, I'm amazed too) if he could have a drink of my water. Then said a general bye as he left.
I'm done. I no longer consider him family. I will not be treated that way any more. I am no one's door mat. I'm done.
And I'm sad, because I love him, and I want my brother back. I'm sad because I've hurt my mom by telling her that I am done with him. I'm sad because I will hurt my dad if I tell him.
If he can ever treat me as a human being deserving of respect and caring I will welcome him back with open arms.
Unfortunately, I don't see that happening
It is hard, so hard that I am crying typing about it. I love him and for years we were so close. In high school we had many friends in common and we would talk for hours.
Now he treats me like I am an idiot and his slave. When I see him there is never a "hi, how are you doing." He seldom even acknowledges my existence unless he wants me to do something for him or if he wants to yell at me.
When I called him to tell him about Tavis' birth I ended up swearing at him and hanging up because he was yelling at me telling me, "you can't name him Tavis and are you trying to populate the whole city," in really rude tones. After I hung up I cried. The day my baby was born he made me cry with his rudeness.
One time at my mom's house Jed told Tristan that he was going to spank him and I said, "no, your not." Then Jed yelled at me and basically told me that my kids are going to be criminals and that I am a horrible mother.
He has no respect for me and no time for me. He lives most of the year in Arizona hours and hours away and if he calls my house it is to talk to Tony. When he is here I only see him or hear from him if we happen to be in the same place at the same time. Then he only talks to me if I do something he doesn't like or if he is ordering me around. And then he can't be bothered to even say, "Thanks."
But this all came to a head yesterday. My dad was having his annual hog roast and horse riding party. It is a huge party and every year my sister and I go to town to get the supplies before the party. We generally leave the kids with Tony at my dad's house so that we don't have to haul them in and out of the stores and because they love being at Grandpa's. We were taking Tavis with us because he won't take a bottle and I didn't want him to have to cry for me when I was gone.
As we were leaving Jed yells across the yard at us "be back in an hour, don't go shopping."
An hour??? It takes 10 -15 minutes to get to town and we bought nearly $200 worth of stuff, there was no shopping involved. In fact we have only gone shopping on the day of the party once and that year we left several hours earlier than usual just for that purpose. But Jed thinks that the world revolves around him and he wants Tony to help him with the horses on the day of the party and me leaving the kids with Tony makes Tony unavailable to jump when Jed says jump.
But, without rushing we were done shopping about an hour after we left, except Walmart didn't have the beer Jed told us to get for him (and it is a well known fact that Jed will throw a temper tantrum if you don't get him exactly what he "asks" for). So we went to the liquor store and they were out of the cases but had some 12 packs. Then we went to another liquor store and they had 1 case but not the 2 cases he told us to get. So we had to go back to the first liquor store to get the 2-12 packs. All in all spending another 45 minutes driving around for his beer, in my car, using my gas.
This is a theme with our shopping trips for the party. Every year we spend most of our town time driving to all the different stores trying to get exactly the beer Jed wants.
Then we get back with my van Full. And no one can help us unload and Jed is taking Tony right now to get the horses. I said, "hey Jed here's your beer...." And he said, "put it in this cooler and put ice on it!" and drove off.
Then later the kids were riding the horses around the riding pen and he was yelling at them for not doing things right yadda yadda yadda.
By the way Dria is turning into an EXCELLENT rider. She was having the least trouble of any one riding. All of the horses minded her and she was even having the horses trotting and was doing great. I'm so proud of her.
So some of Jed's friends want to ride. The girl had never been on a horse before and was nervous so they were going to ride double and I was helping them because I had just gotten off the horse they were going to ride. But another of Jed's friends runs over and tells them not to ride that horse because that horse doesn't like men. Whatever, so I called Dria over and switched her over so they could have the horse she was riding because she had the gentlest horse.
Then I left and had no more to do with the horses.
About half an hour later Jed yells at me that he had everyone on the horses that he wanted them to be on and that I was NOT to be switching them around because now no one could get the horses to go (we are talking about a bunch of people who had never ridden and Dria and she was having no troubles). I said, "I only switched Dria and she is doing fine, and I only switched her so that your friends could ride." He then said, "the kids are riding before we eat and the adults can ride after." I rolled my eyes and walked away.
OK.
(Incidentally, it was one of his friends switching everyone around so they could ride the different horses.)
I then went about my business not talking to Jed at all and hours later was helping the same girl get back on a horse and Jed yells at me that he knows a bit about horses and that I was doing it wrong (hello, I was raised with horses too you know, AND I probably know this horse better than you because you are in Arizona most of the year and I am here). I said, "And I don't?"
He then said something to the effect that I don't know anything and I am stupid. I can't remember what exactly. It really hurt. A Lot.
Damn, I'm crying again. It wasn't just what he said, his condescending tone was much worse.
So to summarize my interactions with him yesterday.
When we arrived I said,"hi, Jed" he grunted
When we were making our list I asked him if he needed any thing in town and he said ,"Get me 2 cases of beer!" no please or thank you
I called him from town and he told me that 4-12 packs of beer is not going to work, "Go to the other store!"
When we got back from town he told me to put his beer in THAT cooler with some ice.
Then he yelled at me for switching people around on horses.
Then he yelled at me for not doing it right.
Then I packed up my kids and things and left.
This is the second time I've seen him since he came home after being gone for 9 months.
The other time I saw him he asked (yes actually asked, I'm amazed too) if he could have a drink of my water. Then said a general bye as he left.
I'm done. I no longer consider him family. I will not be treated that way any more. I am no one's door mat. I'm done.
And I'm sad, because I love him, and I want my brother back. I'm sad because I've hurt my mom by telling her that I am done with him. I'm sad because I will hurt my dad if I tell him.
If he can ever treat me as a human being deserving of respect and caring I will welcome him back with open arms.
Unfortunately, I don't see that happening
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
OK this is it
I've decided that today is the day that I get serious about losing the baby weight and about cutting out dairy for my health.
I weighed myself a week or so ago and I weighed more than I've ever weighed when I wasn't pg. I weighed 192 lbs and some change (I can't remember exactly, I think I blocked it out). So I started excersizing a little and trying not to eat quite so much.
I weighed myself today and I weighed 187.5 so I lost right around 5lbs. YAY me!!
Now to get serious. I know from when I was eliminating foods when Nahli was little that my allergies are much less severe when I am not consuming dairy. Also I lost crazy amounts of weight, just by cutting out dairy, I didn't excersize any more than normal.
So starting today, dairy is gone (to the best of my abilities, I'm not going to obsess about it) and I am going to excersize more. I am going to lose the baby weight.
Also for Tavis I am going to start eliminating foods to see which is causing the allergy ring around his anus. Hopefully it is the dairy so that I won't have to eliminate anything else because, I find it very hard to eliminate foods and very easy to rationalize waiting until tomorrow.
I am blogging about this to give myself some accountability. Everytime I log on here I will think to myself "how am I doing?"
I weighed myself a week or so ago and I weighed more than I've ever weighed when I wasn't pg. I weighed 192 lbs and some change (I can't remember exactly, I think I blocked it out). So I started excersizing a little and trying not to eat quite so much.
I weighed myself today and I weighed 187.5 so I lost right around 5lbs. YAY me!!
Now to get serious. I know from when I was eliminating foods when Nahli was little that my allergies are much less severe when I am not consuming dairy. Also I lost crazy amounts of weight, just by cutting out dairy, I didn't excersize any more than normal.
So starting today, dairy is gone (to the best of my abilities, I'm not going to obsess about it) and I am going to excersize more. I am going to lose the baby weight.
Also for Tavis I am going to start eliminating foods to see which is causing the allergy ring around his anus. Hopefully it is the dairy so that I won't have to eliminate anything else because, I find it very hard to eliminate foods and very easy to rationalize waiting until tomorrow.
I am blogging about this to give myself some accountability. Everytime I log on here I will think to myself "how am I doing?"
Tuesday, July 10, 2007
Monday, July 09, 2007
Don't
take a inquisitive 6 year old to the store with you to buy condoms or you might have this conversation.
In the car Sunday
Tristan "Where are we going?"
Me "To the drug store and blah, blah, blah"
T "Why are we going to the drug store?"
M "To get some things that I need"
T "What do you need?"
M "Just some things"
T "What kind of things?"
M (ok I'll tell him maybe he'll drop it) "some condoms"
(Nope not happening)
T "What are condoms"
M "They are to keep me from getting pg again"
T "Why don't you want to get pg again?"
(Woooo Hoooo he's distracted from the condoms)
M "Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah"
T "Are they a pill?"M "What????"
T "Are the condoms a pill?
M "No."
T "Do you have to take it every day?"
M "They're not a pill"
T "Is it some medicine?"
M "No"
T "Do you have to take it every day?"
M "No, they aren't medicine"
T "What are they?"
M "It's something you wear, lookoverthereisn'tthatcool"
(phew he's distracted)
(NOPE)
In the store VERY VERY LOUDLY
T "what are we getting here again?"
M shushing "Condoms"
T loudly "Are those condoms?"
M " Shhhh,Yes"
T loudly "How do they keep you from getting pg?"
M "Let's talk about this in the car"
In the car again
T "Can we open them so I can see?"
M "No, because if we open them they are ruined."
T "What do they look like?"
M "Ummmmm, a sock???"
T "A SOCK!! Do you wear them on your feet????"
M "No."
T "Do you wear them on your hands?"
M "No"
T (incredulously)"Do you wear them on your head????"
M (trying not to laugh) "No, Tristan, where do you want to eat lunch? (trying for the distraction again)
T (Not happening) "Where do you wear them"
M sigh "I don't wear them, Daddy does, remember it takes a mommy and a daddy to have a baby."
T ''Daddy wears them??" giggle
T "where does daddy wear them?"
M God this kid is relentless "What do boys have that girls don't"
T "I don't know."
T "Oh, a penis......................"
T "Daddy wears them on his penis????"
T hysterical laughter
At Wendy's 10 minutes later, he's finally stopped laughing.
As we get out of the car
T "On his penis" hysterical laughter again
At home 2 hours later
T "Daddy, we got you something to wear on your penis." hysterical laughter
Monday
T "Mommy we got daddy those things to go on his penis" laughter
Tuesday when we have 4 teenage girls that used to be our neighbors over using our pool
T to the teenagers "Hey, we got daddy something to wear on his penis the other day, Mommy, what were those things called again?"
M "Condoms, Tristan."
T "Oh yeah, condoms, to wear on his penis" laughter
Today
T "Mommy where did we put those things for daddy to put on his penis"
M "Away, Tristan."
T under his breath while giggling "on his penis"
OMG he has gotten 4 days of laughter out of that trip and I think I have been traumatized for life.
ROFLMBO
I wrote this 4 days after it happened, it has been a couple of weeks now and today I heard him talking to Dria about it. OMG it will never die.
Tony doesn't think it's funny anymore and says that I should never have told him all of that. He says that I should have said, "Don't worry about it, it doesn't concern you." But I believe very strongly in answering my children's questions. To me it is a part and parcel of homeschooling and encouraging their love of learning.
So even though I love Tony to death and truly believe that he is my soulmate, in this we disagree as we do in many things. Oh well.
In the car Sunday
Tristan "Where are we going?"
Me "To the drug store and blah, blah, blah"
T "Why are we going to the drug store?"
M "To get some things that I need"
T "What do you need?"
M "Just some things"
T "What kind of things?"
M (ok I'll tell him maybe he'll drop it) "some condoms"
(Nope not happening)
T "What are condoms"
M "They are to keep me from getting pg again"
T "Why don't you want to get pg again?"
(Woooo Hoooo he's distracted from the condoms)
M "Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah"
T "Are they a pill?"M "What????"
T "Are the condoms a pill?
M "No."
T "Do you have to take it every day?"
M "They're not a pill"
T "Is it some medicine?"
M "No"
T "Do you have to take it every day?"
M "No, they aren't medicine"
T "What are they?"
M "It's something you wear, lookoverthereisn'tthatcool"
(phew he's distracted)
(NOPE)
In the store VERY VERY LOUDLY
T "what are we getting here again?"
M shushing "Condoms"
T loudly "Are those condoms?"
M " Shhhh,Yes"
T loudly "How do they keep you from getting pg?"
M "Let's talk about this in the car"
In the car again
T "Can we open them so I can see?"
M "No, because if we open them they are ruined."
T "What do they look like?"
M "Ummmmm, a sock???"
T "A SOCK!! Do you wear them on your feet????"
M "No."
T "Do you wear them on your hands?"
M "No"
T (incredulously)"Do you wear them on your head????"
M (trying not to laugh) "No, Tristan, where do you want to eat lunch? (trying for the distraction again)
T (Not happening) "Where do you wear them"
M sigh "I don't wear them, Daddy does, remember it takes a mommy and a daddy to have a baby."
T ''Daddy wears them??" giggle
T "where does daddy wear them?"
M God this kid is relentless "What do boys have that girls don't"
T "I don't know."
T "Oh, a penis......................"
T "Daddy wears them on his penis????"
T hysterical laughter
At Wendy's 10 minutes later, he's finally stopped laughing.
As we get out of the car
T "On his penis" hysterical laughter again
At home 2 hours later
T "Daddy, we got you something to wear on your penis." hysterical laughter
Monday
T "Mommy we got daddy those things to go on his penis" laughter
Tuesday when we have 4 teenage girls that used to be our neighbors over using our pool
T to the teenagers "Hey, we got daddy something to wear on his penis the other day, Mommy, what were those things called again?"
M "Condoms, Tristan."
T "Oh yeah, condoms, to wear on his penis" laughter
Today
T "Mommy where did we put those things for daddy to put on his penis"
M "Away, Tristan."
T under his breath while giggling "on his penis"
OMG he has gotten 4 days of laughter out of that trip and I think I have been traumatized for life.
ROFLMBO
I wrote this 4 days after it happened, it has been a couple of weeks now and today I heard him talking to Dria about it. OMG it will never die.
Tony doesn't think it's funny anymore and says that I should never have told him all of that. He says that I should have said, "Don't worry about it, it doesn't concern you." But I believe very strongly in answering my children's questions. To me it is a part and parcel of homeschooling and encouraging their love of learning.
So even though I love Tony to death and truly believe that he is my soulmate, in this we disagree as we do in many things. Oh well.
Long time no post
Well it's been well over a year since I updated this blog, actually closer to two.
Lots of things have changed in that time. Most importantly I'm no longer a mother to four kidlets, I now have five. Our fifth child joined our family on Feb. 6, 2007. Tavis was born at home, unassisted, and in a horse tank with our three older children, Tony and my sister looking on. It was a wonderful, very fast birth and he slid right into our lives as if he had always been there. He is a wonderful, very easy baby and makes our family complete. I hope, but who knows? It seems that a higher power has taken over our family planning in the last few years as both Tavis and Nahli were huge surprises. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE surprises.
And Tony and I just celebrated our 10th year of marriage on the 5th of July.
Another thing that has changed just happened last month when Tony was hired to work part time as a Police Officer. He has been a Reserve Officer for 4 years and now is planning to go to the Police Academy at the first opening. Wooo Hooo, hopefully this is the beginning of the end of factory work for Tony.
Also I have taken up knitting, and am planning a wholly handmade Christmas for this year. So far I have one gift completely made and a few stray dishcloths that I will gift to someone. I have a plan for nearly everyone on our gift list.
Lots of things have changed in that time. Most importantly I'm no longer a mother to four kidlets, I now have five. Our fifth child joined our family on Feb. 6, 2007. Tavis was born at home, unassisted, and in a horse tank with our three older children, Tony and my sister looking on. It was a wonderful, very fast birth and he slid right into our lives as if he had always been there. He is a wonderful, very easy baby and makes our family complete. I hope, but who knows? It seems that a higher power has taken over our family planning in the last few years as both Tavis and Nahli were huge surprises. I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE surprises.
And Tony and I just celebrated our 10th year of marriage on the 5th of July.
Another thing that has changed just happened last month when Tony was hired to work part time as a Police Officer. He has been a Reserve Officer for 4 years and now is planning to go to the Police Academy at the first opening. Wooo Hooo, hopefully this is the beginning of the end of factory work for Tony.
Also I have taken up knitting, and am planning a wholly handmade Christmas for this year. So far I have one gift completely made and a few stray dishcloths that I will gift to someone. I have a plan for nearly everyone on our gift list.
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